Loving Eric – A Story of Adoption, Attachment, Autism and ADHD”

By Laura Morrissey

“Loving Eric” is a mother’s story of adoption and the subsequent heartbreaking challenges that the whole family encounters as they come to understand the impact Eric’s severe Attachment Disorder, Autism and ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) has on everyone’s daily lives.

Laura is also my sister.

The book charts Laura’s journey as she searches for answers to better support her family in the ensuing meltdown. The book shows how journalling can really help people to reflect, to create and to redesign their lives. The book also shows how reflective practice is absolutely essential for people who work with people in any capacity to work creatively, compassionately, and wisely.

As I write in the Foreword:

“Every word of this candid book is true. It is an honest story of adoption on the inside track. Funny, warm-hearted and ultimately full of love and hope it also takes the reader to moments of deep, deep despair.

Laura is my sister and Eric is my nephew. As Laura was writing this book to help her process her own feelings I was privileged to read her blogs as the story unfolded. My inbox would bing and I knew I had to make a coffee and sit and read her latest accounts and offer what little hope, help, holding or insight I could as Eric’s story developed like a detective story. For a long time was encouraged Laura to write about it but it was all too raw – a living loving nightmare- which she could not share until she felt after all of her extensive reading and research to have found some answers. These answers are now framed in her establishment of the Hummingbird Centre and in her discovery of Lifespan Integration Therapy. Follow these links to find out more

Most importantly this is a critical book for professionals, careers and families who live and work alongside adopted children who in addition to the traumas separation and loss in their early years struggle with special educational needs. These children and their adopted families need new understanding to support their much wanted child and to keep themselves and their own relationships together. Sadly 80% of couples separate under the pressure, merely compounding loss after loss for adopted child. Carers and professionals need to step up to the challenge, courageously reflect when more of the same is not working and creatively explore alternative ways of thinking, seeing and working with families who are already on their knees.

I recommend this book to anyone who is living and working in this field to fill the gaps in empathy, help and practical support which is not just Eric’s story but it sadly repeated again and again. This book is a call for action, for us all to do better”