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Finding Your Rhythm Profiling Practice 80: Reflection: Embracing Silence

Weekly Practice No. 21

Every week we profile one of the “Reflect to Create! “ practices from my book, they are chosen at random from a jar on my desk.  My invitation is for you to try it out if it speaks to you in some way.



This week we are profiling Practice 80: Embracing Silence (from page 153 of my book). 

Practice 80 is one of the dance steps in The Flow’s Initiating the Invitation. The Flow’s Fertile Void cannot be commanded to serve and support us. Rather we need to create the invitation within ourselves – and in others we work with – in order to step into the unknown and access its potentiality.  And this takes easefulness, courage and compassion. 

As we break for the summer, Practice 80 reminds me seek silence along with the dash to the beach so I can review the last academic year and dream and plan for the next!

Silence enables us to tune into ourselves and into the world around us. As Mother Theresa invites us¹:

To see how nature – trees, flowers, grass – grows in silence; see the stars, the moon and the sun, how they move in silence…we need silence to be able to touch souls.

Music depends on silence: it allows the notes and rhythms to be heard. For Deepak Chopra silence is the great teacher².

To learn its lessons you must pay attention to it. There is no substitute for the creative inspiration, knowledge, and stability that come from knowing how to contact your core of inner silence.


This invites you to experiment with ‘making silence’ in your life. Here are a few suggestions for you to try:

  • Ask yourself ‘What is my relationship with silence?’ Journal your ideas.
  • Ask yourself ‘Can I make a friend of silence?’
  • Listen for the silences between speech or activity.
  • Do not rush to fill empty spaces with noise or speaking.
  • Sit in a wood or a field and listen to nature’s own symphony.
  • Listen to the noise of the weather around you.
  • Sit for extended periods of time in pure silence.
  • Sit in silence with another and feel the relational connection between you grow.
  • Go on a Silent Retreat.
  • Journal your experiments: ‘What does silence feel like?’, ‘What worked for you?’ and ‘What did you discover?’


An extract from David Whyte’s poem ‘Coleman’s Bed’³ reminds us to hold ourselves in a ‘corner of silence’ until we discover what needs to be known to us:

Above all, be alone with it all,
a hiving off, a corner of silence
amidst the noise, refuse to talk,
even to yourself, and stay in this place
until the current of the story
is strong enough to float you out.

Have a go! 

Start with small steps.

Reflect on what you are noticing.

Please do share your stories so we can all learn together.

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[3] Whyte, D. (2007) Many Rivers Flow. Pp 288. Langley, Many Rivers Press.

1 Comment

  1. Gabriela Alcocer on July 31, 2019 at 8:34 pm

    Thank you Elaine to share with us your reflecting practice!

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