Weekly Practice 30

Every week we profile one of the “Reflect to Create! “ practices from my book, they are chosen at random from a jar on my desk.  My invitation is for you to try it out if it speaks to you in some way.


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This week we are profiling Practice 132: Extreme Self Care (from page 212 of my book). 

Practice 132 is one of the dance steps in The Flow’s Finding Freedom. Finding Freedom is the dance step, which invites us to tune into our intuition and allowing our inner wisdom to guide us home.

As we hurtle towards the festive season and the end of another decade, Extreme Self Care is at the forefront of my mind this week. 

And as we become more fully awake and alive we also need to practice extreme or radical self care. As we awaken into ever deepening consciousness and at the same time realise our highest potential we need to also find ways to nurture and protect ourselves. Fragile roots and saplings need nourishment and support.  Practising Extreme Self Care is both a duty to ourselves and to others for living a more conscious and authentic life. 

Charles Handy defined this as ‘proper selfishness’. As he says¹:

It is proper to be concerned with ourselves and a search for WHO we truly are, because that search leads us to self-respect which in the end only comes from responsibility, responsibility for other people and other things.

For this practice:

  • Test your own reactions to the notion of Extreme or Radical Self Care. 
  • Ask yourself ‘How might I be creating an aura of scarcity and deprivation by not attending to my own self care?’ 
  • Ask yourself ‘Where is this showing up in my life and work and what does it feel like?’ Examples might include: being deprived of sleep, help, support, companionship, fun, peace, touch, space or recognition.
  • Ask yourself ‘What would taking Extreme Self Care mean for me?’ – ‘How would I create a soul nourishing environment for myself and what would it look like?’
  • Journal your insights, choices and actions.

As Cheryl Richardson writes²:

Enjoying a life of Extreme Self Care means living and working in a soul nurturing environment: developing a greater appreciation for, and connection with nature; doing work that provides an opportunity to express your greatest gifts and talents; and caring for your emotional, physical and mental health in a way that is aligned with WHO you are and WHAT you most need. When you allow yourself to want this and then have it, you can’t help but want if for others as well.

Have a go! 

Start with small steps.

Reflect on what you are noticing.

Please do share your stories so we can all learn together.

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¹   Handy, C. (1998) The Hungry Spirit –Beyond Capitalism A Quest for Purpose in the Modern World. Pp 87. London, Random House Ltd.

² Richardson. C. (2009) The Art of Extreme Self Care. Pp xvi. London, Hay House UK Ltd.


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