Weekly Practice 44


Every week we profile one of the “Reflect to Create! “ practices from my book, they are chosen at random from a jar on my desk.  My invitation is for you to try it out if it speaks to you in some way.



This week we are profiling Practice 150 Asking for Help (from page 232 of my book).

Practice 150 is one of the dance steps in The Denouement’s Crafting Focus.

Crafting Focus is the invitation to hone, refine, test and apply our discoveries from The Flow.  Focus is not usually something we just arrive at but needs to be crafted, honed and refined as we test what is needed.  I chose Practice 150 this week as a reminder to myself to ask for leeway or help from others.  I notice my own phenomenon of lock-down (and also Zoom) fatigue – and so asking for help to pause and better pace myself feels incredibly important right now.

As I write in my book:

Our fatal mistake is to think that we are alone. Appreciating how and when to ask for help is key to happiness and success. Crafting the invitation for help is key to our creativity.

For this practice reflect on this passage from David Whyte¹:


Help is strangely something we want to do without, as if the very idea disturbs and blurs the boundaries, as if we cannot face how much we need in order to go on. We are born with the absolute need for help, grow only with a continuous succession of extended hands, and as adults depend upon others for our further success and possibilities in life even as competent individuals. It may be that the ability to know the necessity of help and how to ask for it, is one of the transformative dynamics that allows us to emancipate ourselves into each new epoch of our lives. Without the understanding that we need a particular form of aid at every crucial threshold in our lives and without the robust vulnerability in asking for help we cannot pass through the door that bars us from the next dispensation of our lives: we cannot birth ourselves.


Now ask yourself:

  • ‘How do I feel about asking for help?’
  • ‘How do I feel about receiving help?’
  • ‘How and when do I ask for help – and when don’t I ask for help when I need it?’
  • Journal your reflections.



Have a go! 

Start with small steps.

Please do share your stories so we can all learn together.

Join us on our “Reflect to Create!”  Facebook Group page.



¹    Whyte, D. (2015) Consolations: The Solace, Nourishment and Underlying Meaning of Everyday Words. Pp 108. Langley, Many Rivers Press

Leave a Comment